TAKING CHARGE OF EMOTIONS


TAKING CHARGE OF EMOTIONS

Picture this. You get home from a long stressful day at home. Your boss got really mad at you. A client acted very rude towards you. Looking down at your soaked clothes and shoes, you regret not being financially buoyant enough to buy a car. 

You look down at your vibrating phone only to see your mum as the caller ID. You drop the phone, knowing the reason why she was calling as usual. “Get married” is now a tune to your ears. Despite all this, your only hope of comfort is your big bowl of (imagine your favorite food here) which you left before going to work. It puts a smile back on your face as you literally skip into the kitchen only to discover the horror that had befallen your bowl. GONE!

Marching straight into the living room, you find the culprit. Your room mate. You ask why he/she ate your food, he/she replies “so what? I ate it already” in an unapologetic way. What would be your reaction?

80% of the people reading this have made up their mind to get angry and fight. Another 15% have decided not just to say anything but instead await a time of revenge. 4% have decided they are not strong enough to fight and so keep quiet, going to look for something else to eat. The last 1% chooses not to get angry, but instead calms down and looks for a way to turn the situation around. 

Who sleeps with a peaceful heart among these four set of people?

I know most people are wondering now “how can I not get angry? I have every right to be angry”. The other few are rethinking “well, that’s true, I choose to get angry. I choose to have peace”. Most people feel they have control over their feelings while most people think they don’t.

 The question here is ‘do we really have control over these strong feelings?’ ‘How do we control these strong feelings?’ You do have control over how you feel. The truth is we actually have a choice over every feeling we express. We choose how we react, we choose what to express.

I had the privilege of talking to some elderly men in the bus a few days ago about this topic. They believe in the fact that they have control over their emotions and everyone actually should. My friend then asked them how they are able to control these emotions with their ‘weak’ human nature. 

I highlighted the word ‘weak’ in reference to our earlier definition of emotions as ‘strong feelings’. Then I wondered how are we able to handle these strong feelings if we don’t have something stronger backing up our weak human bodies. This was when my friend brought in the issue of Christ being our strong backing to help us control these strong feelings since there’s obviously nothing stronger than him.

You! Yes you! You are the driver of your life. Imagine your life as a car and you’re in the driver’s seat. If you make a wrong turn or crash, you have no one to blame it on. This is also in accordance to our emotions. If you choose to get angry, you have no one to blame it on but yourself. No one can control that steering wheel but you.

Some time ago, my friend did something really bad to piss me off. I felt she had betrayed me and swore never to speak to her again. It then struck me that I had actually allowed myself to get angry at the situation. I CHOOSE TO GET ANGRY. After reviewing this, when another situation similar to this came up, I chose not to get angry and handled the situation very well which ended up yielding better results than the first one.
When you allow emotions overwhelm you, it clouds your better sense of judgment. Don’t take any decision when emotionally unstable or stimulated. Wait and think.

We have to learn to take control of our emotions because it helps us take control of our lives and have focus. It helps us stay out of trouble. It attracts the right people to us and helps us build relationships with the right people. As Christians, it helps us obey God.

In conclusion, emotions are not necessarily bad but they depend on the way you use them. At the end of the day, the effects of these temporal emotions will be felt. You can either control your emotions by showing it or not.

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